So, some of us (hmmm…me over here) think that we are perfect, right? Think that we have things all figured out and that the way we do things is the right way. This leaves very little room to make a happy life with someone else.
Truth is, I don’t actually think I am perfect, but if you watched me and knew my personality, you would most definitely think that was my mentality. At the end of the day though, I beat myself up way more than anyone else does or ever could, probably in the quest for perfection, but that’s a whole other story.
My point is that, we aren’t perfect. No one person has everything under control, knows the best way to do everything. Perhaps, as a team you can come up with a perfect way to live life together. Together, maybe with hard work you can be the most perfect version of you. Perfection looks different to everyone right? Perfection is in the eye of the beholder!
Paul, my husband has really shown me that I am not perfect. (Not in an asshole, controlling husband kind of way). Paul and I are complete opposites in very many of our personality traits. I am wound very tight, he is very relaxed. I think about money down to pennies, he thinks about money in terms of 10s and 20s. I think about nearly everything in terms of how it’s going to effect the future, Paul is usually in the here and now.
I have learned a lot from Paul in the nearly four years we have been together. I have learned to relax more, stay in bed and in my pajamas longer, sit all day and watch TV and wait to do chores. I have stopped wearing a watch and I no longer balance my check book (these things are HUGE). Among many other things.
I have still kept the foundation of my personality in tact though. I budget and make sure that we spend wisely, so we can pay our bills and still save to take our family on vacation. Paul says that’s when that part of my personality comes in handy. I have stopped getting upset about him stopping at the gas station for Gatorade and chips though, because the reality is that 3 dollars once a week is not making or breaking us.
Paul, helps me see the fun and adventure in activities that I tend to see all the flaws in. For instance going to an amusement park with all six of our kids. I just see everything that could go wrong, Paul reminds me of how much fun all the kids and our family are going to have.
When I feel the need to get up out of bed the second my eyes open, he reminds me that it’s ok to stay and cuddle. Yes, I am a cuddler now! This is something completely Paul induced. Which until right now while writing this, I haven’t really thought about. I am, correction WAS, a you sleep on your side and I’ll sleep on mine kind of person. Paul is a super cuddler (sorry honey if you didn’t want people to know). This is his love language and I have realized that over the years. Now I enjoy laying in his arms and sometimes having him lay in mine.
Paul has really helped me to enjoy life more and I have helped him have the money to enjoy it, LOL. We went out to dinner last night for Fathers Day and I got a $20 dinner, soft shell crab stuffed with crab cake, which is not something I would normally do. We also ordered fancier drinks then we normally would, an appetizer and dessert. It probably was the perfect way to celebrate my perfect for me husband on this perfect for him holiday.
We relaxed, we didn’t worry about money and we enjoyed our meal together. I love you Paul Christie. Happy Fathers Day, again. I didn’t get the chance to blog that yesterday because I was busy relaxing with my family and enjoying the day. You are the perfect husband for me.