I like to think that more often than not, I am a positive person. I tend to think that I can accomplish just about anything that I set my mind to. Just ask me and I will tell you just how capable I think I am, Lol.
The thing is though, if I don’t believe in myself, why in the world would I expect others to? Believing that you CAN do something is half the battle. Mind over matter, I have believed in this attitude as long as I can remember. For me, it has always proven true.
I wasn’t ever that good of a student. I mean I actually was good at academic things, but was bored very easily. To be honest, I cared MUCH more about the social aspect of school. I graduated High School with like a 2.6. Not awesome, I know. It was good enough to get into Central Michigan which was where I wanted to go, so it didn’t matter at all.
I did exactly the same thing in college. I enjoyed myself, learned what I needed to and got good enough grades to obtain my Bachelors In 4 years. Again, I think I graduated with about a 2.5. I went to high school, because I HAD to. I attended college, because it was expected of me. Though 1 year later, I decided to get my Masters because I wanted to.
I worked full time and attended grad school full time. I did it, because I told myself that I could. Before I found love, started a family I wanted to do this for me. There was NO reason that I couldn’t. I graduated in 2 years with a 3.7. Lol…I turned other people’s you can’t into I can…I did!
Same was true of deciding to have my children naturally. There were a million and 1 people who told me I was nuts, including the OB I was seeing when I got pregnant. You know what happened there, I went searching for a new doctor when I was 5 months pregnant. Nobody was going to tell me I can’t have this baby the way I want to. 3 babies and zero complications later, all of them were born naturally. I CAN do whatever I put my mind to.
Making it through divorce. That is usually pretty rough for everyone. I could have chosen for it to take me down for a long time, but in the grand scheme of my life, it was a hand full of weeks. I told myself that I can still function, be a good mom and was certainly still capable of getting out of bed in the morning. Most importantly instead of thinking that I couldn’t endure love again, I told myself Yes I can.
Most recently, changing my schedule and routine to accommodate exercise. I have a full plate already. Full time job, husband, kids…you CAN’T do everything. Well, for the last 6 months I have been figuring out how to turn that can’t into can. Instead of saying I can’t make the time, I just do. I set my alarm earlier, because I can. I don’t make excuses to not work out, I make plans to take days off.
Life is hard enough without having all that negativity in your own brain. Enough people will stand in the way of the things that you really want, don’t be one of them. When you adopt a “turn that can’t into can” attitude, you will be a force to be reckoned with. Mind over matter!