On July 13th 2011, I woke up with a message from a man I’d never met. A message relating the information in my online profile to him. Telling me to read his profile and then contact him if I thought he was someone I could be interested in.
We met on July 17th and I don’t think either one of us could have imagined what a whirlwind would have started from there. Our life isn’t easy, in fact it is hard. I’ll admit it, living the life we live and making sure we are growing together is the most difficult thing I’ve ever done.
I looked up at Paul on the couch yesterday and said “I choose you, do you still choose me?” Then typical me before he could even answer, I said “tomorrow you will have been choosing me for 4 years.” He said ” Wow, feels like longer than that.” LOL….in the best way possible right?
You have to wake up EVERY day and choose your marriage. Choose it over everything else, choose to put the love and effort into your spouse that they deserve. You don’t just “have” a marriage, you have to choose it. Some days one of you might carry more weight, but mostly, it should all even out.
Choose your marriage on the days when you have no money and are unsure how you will buy groceries, when you have to move and don’t know where you’ll go, when you just don’t have the energy to put in. When the big things come and you can work together to figure it out. You choose to work together, even though it seems like giving up may be easier.
Life is hard, this life that we chose is hard. There are so many hands in the pot, so many variables all the time, but it’s all worth it. This is something that we both want. We know that we are lucky. We have chosen to learn from our mistakes, take what we have gone through in the past and turn it into something good.
Happy 4 years of being in my life Paul Christie. It’s a crazy life, but I choose you to live it with!