Today Paul and I celebrate our 4th anniversary. Not a very long time, I am well aware of this. That being said, it is a milestone neither of us reached in our previous marriages. On New Years Eve 2011 we got married in front of many of our family and friends. After just 5 1/2 short months of knowing each other.
Something is different about your second marriage. When I got married the first time I went in thinking, this is it, this is forever. Of course things weren’t going to end, fail or change. The second time around though, I went in knowing full well that forever isn’t guaranteed. Things constantly change, we fail all the time, but you continually work on yourself and your life together so that you don’t meet an end.
Over the last 4 years there have been many ups and down. Many changes, added stress and failures. We had to move just 2 days after we got married. Then on Valentine’s day we found out that we were expecting a baby. Something we weren’t even entirely sure we were ever going to try for. Adding a 6th child into this marriage. However, having that baby made everything make sense.
By the time we were married a year we had lived in 2 different homes and had welcomed a baby into our lives. We were both working full time, managing children in 4 different households and going through struggles on the regular. I believe that it is obvious to both of us, that it is only with each other that we would have been able to come up on top of each these things.
Now, we have moved yet again. We both still work full time, but at new jobs. Jobs that can be careers for both of us. I am certain that we wouldn’t have been able to move up the ladder of life without the support of each other. We are better people in our work lives and social lives, because of how we are in our home life.
It isn’t easy. I mean some days, when we just get to sit on the couch all day and watch TV together, those are easier than others. But the day to day, takes a lot of work, a lot of effort in order to keep giving as much as the other one deserves. But, here we are 4 years later still choosing each other.
Happy Anniversary Paul Christie! Some time over the last 4 years you became my very best friend. The one I want to run and tell all my problems and all my accomplishments to. You are the one I want to sit on the couch and watch TV with, the one I want to raise our 6 children with and the one I want to go to bed with every single night. Thank you for staying with me, when it could have been easier not to. I love you!