This weekend led Paul and I to the opportunity to talk about relationships. He was having a conversation on the phone about how he felt about relationships, especially in the beginning. Afterward, we spoke some about it some more.
I told him that he said some very nice things about me without even meaning to. While having this perfectly natural conversation with his brother, he brought up many things about our relationship, how it was in the beginning and how it is now. A lot of things that made me think, wow that is how I felt/feel too. Things that we haven’t really ever talked about.
One of those things was soulmates! He said “I don’t really buy into the whole there is only one person for each of us.” “That doesn’t mean I don’t believe in soulmates, but I believe a soulmate can be a non-romantic partner.” Then he said that as he has gotten older, he knows that his best friend is one of his best friends. That they are practically the same person, with the same thoughts and ideals.
I am pretty sure that I have told Paul how I feel about this before, but he hasn’t really ever told me. I too believe in soulmates, but not in the traditional sense. I don’t believe that there is just 1 person for everyone. I believe that you can find qualities you like about someone and if you work hard on your relationship it can grow and thrive, romantic or otherwise.
I love Paul with all my heart and maybe he is a soulmate, but he isn’t the first or the only. I have 2 people that beyond a shadow of a doubt are my soulmates. There for the good, bad, ugly and everything in between. They are my two best friends, that are women! Katy and Sarah are my soulmates, they have seen into me, believed in me and loved me when I had absolutely nothing to give.
So, I was just wondering do you believe in soulmates? Do you think that there is only one for everyone? Is it a romantic partner or can be a friend?