I wrote about this 2 1/2 years ago. So, I will post that post right here for you: Losing Friends Because of Life
Losing that group of friends was seriously one of the hardest things I have ever been through in my entire life. Even though, now nearly 6 years later I know that everything happens for a reason, it still really hurts my heart.
About 12 years ago, I ended a relationship with a friend. I friend that had literally sucked the life out of me, she was the worst mooch ever. At first my best friend and I just chalked it up to her being younger. We had already graduated college and she was still in it. Whenever she came home for the weekend, she would crash at our place. She would eat all of our food, monopolize our time and energy with whatever she wanted to do. We would go out to eat or for drinks at the bar and she would NEVER have money.
When I say she would eat all of our food I mean, we’d have a sleeve of 6 bagels, over the course of the weekend she would eat all of them!! There was no please, no thank you, just take take take. It was our fault really, we hadn’t created boundaries that were good enough.
She graduated college and moved back home in the fall of 2005. About 5 months later, I called her and I said “I need a break” and she was like “what?” I told her that I just couldn’t be in this friendship the way that it was anymore. My best friend was so relieved, she isn’t as forward as me. But knew that me ending my friendship with her, meant that she wouldn’t have to see the other friend anymore either.
It was hard and I missed her. I have run into her 1 time since then and it didn’t make me regret my decision at all. I sincerely hope that she is leading a wonderful life, but walking away from her and that friendship was certainly the right decision for me at the time. When I can look at it from that point of view, then I can see that my group of friends who “unfriended” me back in 2012, must have thought they were making the right decision.
I am losing a friend right now, I can feel it. It isn’t hard or easy. This time around I just know that God is doing what is supposed to be done. Maybe we are meant to split and not be in each others’ lives anymore. Perhaps, we have to just drift for a minute now and we will come back together in the future. Whatever it is, there is a reason for it that at some point I will notice.
God Bless and Happy Sunday!