I am preparing to go to a Public School this morning to present a training! It is always fun to get invited into a professional development day with teachers. Even better when the topic is something that you know makes for an interesting training.
The topic of this training is “If You See Something, Say Something”. The point is eradicating gossip. We are grown ups after all!!
There will be 60 people at this training and range from their early twenties to their sixties. The thing is even the older generation has a hard time being direct and honest when they are frustrated about co-worker situations. Why is this?
Why do we as grown-ups gets so scared to be direct with people? To use our words to say what we have observed and what should be done differently? We would rather talk to someone else about it and then continue to get frustrated the next time the same thing happens.
Well, you don’t get to complain about it if you aren’t trying to solve the problem. When something is frustrating, you should go to the person who is frustrating you first. That is called respect. Tell that individual what is going on and give them an opportunity to solve the issue before you spread it to others.
That means co-workers, bosses…anyone. If you have tried to solve it on your own, and that isn’t working then maybe you need help to address it in a different way. Not to get the person “in trouble”, not to be a “tattletale”, but to genuinely want to help solve a problem.
Like I said before, I am doing the training for a Public School. These are all individuals that are working with children. Children who are watching and paying attention to every thing that they do. As grown-ups we are constantly teaching, role-modeling the way that we would like children to act. So, if children see us being respectful and working through issues together, well maybe that is how they will hand conflict too.
Let’s say something to the person in a kind and respectful way! Not talk about it behind their backs and expect to see change.
I don’t know about you….but I don’t have time for all the Drama!