I listened to a Podcast yesterday that spoke about all that Mom’s feel expected to do. Whether it is society, social media, family, friends or just ourselves placing those expectations. (Time To Wine Podcast, check it out)
Well, I have to say, I don’t feel much pressure from others to be a certain way. I never really have, and maybe that is my blessing now.
I breastfed all 3 of my babies, for various amounts of time. I took my cues from my children, not from society. Fed then whenever, wherever they needed to be fed. I had 3 babies naturally, with no drugs, in a place without machines and monitors because that’s what I wanted. (I had a doctor tell me that was a stupid choice, I found a new doctor) I used paper diapers for the older 2 and cloth for the youngest (you wouldn’t believe how many people shamed me and told me how gross I was).
I have never forced my children into activities or sports. I mean, who has the time, money and energy to force children to be involved in activities where there is zero interest? (Too many parents)
I raise my voice at my children, I’m human. Sometimes I forget to make doctors appointments and I let them eat garbage for dinner. I let them play video games and watch YouTube. They will also choose to read, go to church and play outside for HOURS.
Yesterday I had the honor and privilege of attending 3 of my children’s parent teacher conferences. Each of those teachers told us that our children “call out in class” lol. Yes, yes they are just like their mother. The other thing every teacher told us was that our children are loved by their classmates. That they love being helpers and always have people who want to hang with them.
Happy, healthy, kind and respectful. I don’t need my children to be the best sports player or the smartest kid in their class. I need them to be the kind of person that others want to be around!! Not to force themselves into a box, but finding their true selves and being proud of who that person is.
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We took cues from kids too…one breastfed for 6 months, the other 18 months. It is what it is. When the kids announced interest in sports we started out slow, watched them handle all of it (pre game prep, after game unpacking and hanging up equipment) and made decisions based on that, not what others said.
When my teen asked to play fortnite he was given permission with restrictions even though other parents had none for their teens. We do what we feel is best, not what others say. 😊