Yesterday my sister’s divorce was finalized. Although, we had known it was in the works since January, I still had a really hard time. Last week she let me know that it would in fact be final yesterday and that still didn’t really hit me.
As soon as the text came through that it was official though, I lost it!!
I was driving, so that wasn’t so bad. At least I was by myself. Although, I am a professional grocery shopper for a living and even found myself tearing up through the aisles of the grocery store!
The thing is, I kept telling myself that it isn’t mine to be so sad about. Or this must be what it felt like for my family during my divorce 8 years ago. Time moves on, life goes on and all will be OK. That didn’t stop the tears either. I mean, he was in my life for 15 years. Other than my Dad, he was the only man I could count on through my own divorce. And, I ultimately felt like I was losing a brother.
I haven’t seen my ex brother-in-law since the holidays. One of the most fun days that I ever had with my whole family. I remember thinking that day, this is the last time we are going to do this. Even though….we didn’t know yet that they were filing for divorce. Isn’t it crazy how right your intuition can be?
We had planned to just be at my parents house for a few hours. We ended up there from first thing in the morning until well into the night. I knew when we left that place things would be changing, I just didn’t know how or why. I have so many wonderful memories from that day and from the 15 years prior to that.
That is what you take with you right? The good times! All I want for everyone now is to be happy. To remember why they did this and to never settle. I want them to respect each other and take care of their children.
“Tell everyone that I miss them, I love you and I hope one day we can all have fun again.”