I receive an affirmation every morning on my phone at 7am. I appreciate them and they always make me think. Here is mine from this morning.

Sometimes it takes a really long time to understand this concept. I’m 38 and I can honestly say it has just been in the last couple of years that I’ve truly embraced it.

Whether romantic, friends or even family, we do not have to accept relationships that are unhealthy. More importantly, we get to decide what an unhealthy relationship is for us.

For me, it looks like someone who day after day makes me feel bad. Those people who turn everything about them. You share a story, a thought, a feeling or concern (that has nothing to do with them) and somehow it ends up being about them, all the time. When they never ask about you, how you are doing or seem to care about your life.

So… here I am at the end of 2018 and I only keep the healthy relationships around. I have walked away from many people and I’ll continue to do so.

I teach my children to do the same. Choose the people you surround yourself with wisely. You deserve to have healthy relationships!

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Published by Making Time For Me

Wife, Mother, Step Mom, Control Freak. 7 years into my second marriage and dedicated to making my home a chemical free safe haven <3

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  1. This is so true! The worst is when we start listening to the toxic people in our lives who affirm our “negative self-talk”. We are who we surround ourselves with. We are what we put into our minds. If we want to be the best versions of ourselves, we need to take a good look at what’s preventing it – oftentimes its the people we associate with. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

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  2. I am guilty of making everything about me in my *intimate relationship. I tend to demand attention, sulk when I don’t get my way, and make things about me when they shouldn’t be. I want to radiate more positivity and support. I need new habits but struggle to overcome emotional urges.

    On the contrary, I am a super supportive *friend. I genuinely listen and give advice when warranted. I rarely make those interactions about me. I think the difference lies in the level of commitment and my expectation in an intimate relationship.

    *intimate refers to significant other, spouse, boyfriend/girlfriend
    *friend refers to friendship, acquaintance, etc

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