On the Eve of my 7th wedding anniversary, I wanted to talk for a minute about what a relationship looks like to me.
Last night, my husband and I stayed up for over an hour talking after we had “gone to bed” for the night. It started with one thing and led down a path of all kinds of other things as it often does. One of the topics that we stayed on for a minute or so is our expectation of what a relationship is.
For the purpose of this conversation, we were only referring to romantic relationships. I need something very specific from my relationships and I have a way that I want it to “look”. After 7 years, I still have a very strong desire to reach out for my husband’s hand, give him a kiss, ask if he needs anything and smile at him from across a crowded room.
Those things are what I want and need. Luckily for me, it is also very close to what Paul wants and needs, so we find ourselves pretty fulfilled on that front. We understand though, that what works for us certainly wouldn’t work for all people. The expectations that we have, aren’t the same as the expectations that others set for their relationships.
This morning after we woke up we were watching a Netflix show called “American MEME”. In this one of the ladies talked about how she never understood how her parents were married, that she couldn’t even remember a time where here parents ever embraced.
The point is, that we can’t possibly know the inner workings of another couple’s relationship. We just have to trust that when they say that they are happy, that of course, they are happy. Even if what happiness looks different from what it looks like in our relationship.
Relationships expectations are completely subjective. Personal, Individual and Emotional! As long as you are healthy and happy, those around you should be able to find happiness for you as well.