My devotion this morning brought up this idea of “Bittersweet”. The idea that even in the sweetest of moments there might be a lining of sadness. On the other hand in the darkest of hours, that there may be a glimmer of hope.
As I get older, I understand this idea much more than I did when I was younger. At my first real job, I remember one of the long-time employees putting in her notice. Our boss, sent out a letter to the staff and to the families letting us all know of the change. In the letter it said “it is with bittersweet feelings that I let you know”. I thought…well that is rude. Thinking that this woman was a terrific employee, you should feel nothing but sadness about her leaving or organization.
I said this out loud to another employee and she helped me to understand. Of course our boss was sad that she was leaving us, but because the woman had been such a great employee we were happy for the journey she was about to embark on. After all, she deserved it.
Embracing our days with this outlook, would maybe make us (me) freak out a little less and be thankful a little more.
For example, last week we had all 6 kids under our roof. When you are in a blended family, you certainly cherish those times. Now, this week, we have just my 6 year old. It is bittersweet. I of course wish that all 6 of our children were here with us all the time and I have sadness in my heart when I have to go longer than normal without seeing them. On the other hand, because it is just our 6 year old, we have been able to have some quality time with him.
Bills are a great example of Bittersweet! No one likes to pay bills, month after month all of our money is going to pay for these things here and there. Well, if I didn’t have a home and a family to take care of….then there would be less bills. The bills that I can’t control having would be smaller if it were just me. When I am paying our Mortgage for our house that is big enough to sleep 8 people, our car payments, the cable or the energy…of course it is a lot of money going out, but it is a lot of things being taken care of for our family.
One last thought of bittersweet. Divorce, no matter what end of the divorce you are on, it can and hopefully does end up being bittersweet. Whether you were the one who initiated it or you were blindsided by the idea of it, you can learn and grow from it. My divorce was final about 8 years ago now and I have been married to my husband Paul now for 7 years. With this beautiful family, a better understanding of marriage and even an admirable relationship with my ex-husband and his wife.
On of my very favorite songs in this whole world is “Bittersweet Symphony” by the Verve. I want it played at my celebration of life party. https://youtu.be/1lyu1KKwC74