Do you make enough time for your marriage? The time that you get just the two of you to reconnect? To actually talk to each other, hold each other’s hands and look into each other’s eyes?
Paul and I may not get out on our own as often as we would like, but we do make this time. We go on vacation just the two of us every 2 years. It is something that we have made a priority in our relationship. Vacation without the kids where we can do grown up things and we really get a chance to talk to each other, learn from each other and grow with each other.
Often times our “date” days have little people. That is also something that we don’t mind and it is what works for us. We still do the things that we like to do and we have brought our kids along enough that they look forward to some of our outings as well.
At a minimum Paul and I get a couple of hours together, just us every night. The kids have a bedtime, that I am fairly strict about. Even the older ones, they may stay awake up in their room for a bit, but they need to start winding down for the day.
The other rule that we have is no kids allowed in our bed. That time is for mom and dad. Sometimes we lay up and talk for hours. Sometimes about nonsense, but sometimes about really hard topics. Our bed is the spot where we get to be husband and wife every single day with no interruptions. When life gets busy and there is a lot on our plates, we at least make time to meet each other there. Going to bed at the same time, going through our ritual “love you’s” and “good-nights”, and cuddling together.
In your marriage or relationship, how do you continue to make time?