When I went through my divorce recovery program 8 years ago now, I was given a lot of advice and information that I still use every day. One of the most powerful sessions was about comparing our private life to someone else’s public life.
While you are going through divorce, sometimes it is easy to see your ex-spouse and think that they are happy and everything is all sunshine and rose for them all the time. That can eat at you. The fact of the matter is, when you are outside of your house (your private life) you can only see what someone is allowing you to see.
I often question those people who CONSTANTLY post about their spouse on social media. OH, I am SOOOOO lucky that so and so, does xyz. When you feel so lucky, you can just turn to your spouse and tell them. I mean of course post about it every once in awhile, I completely get that. I am talking about the people that do it every day. I wonder are they really that happy? Are they insecure and that is why they have to blast it on social media all the time? Do they in fact use their words to tell their partner how much they love and appreciate them? OR maybe they are just different than me and putting how wonderful everything is on social media blast is their love language?
Here is what I do know….I don’t know. I do not know what is actually going on in these people’s private lives. I know the information that they have given to me. I also know that whatever is or isn’t going on, it doesn’t have anything to do with me and my life.
Don’t spend your time comparing what is going on in your private life to what you see in someone else’s public life!!!