Grace

A gentle reminder to be gracious in your speech. To think about what you are saying and how, especially around young ears.

Teaching them about how what you say and to whom matters. That being our kindness and tolerance should be noticed in our words.

Happy Thursday Friends. May you find your words to be full of grace!

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Honesty is the Best Policy.

I’m currently doing a devotional called “Parenting God’s Way.” This morning the focus was on instilling ethical behavior in our children.

Stress the rewards for honesty, including the blessing of a clear conscience. Encourage your children to understand that even if their dishonesty isn’t discovered, their own conscience will trouble them.

I’ve never seen it so clearly written. Or read words that could articulate why you shouldn’t lie so well.

At 38 years old, there is nothing I hate more than a liar. Someone who will look you straight in the eyes and tell you nonsense! Especially those that do it without any remorse or guilt.

My children learn at school the habits of highly effective people. Modified slightly to make sense for 5 to 10 year olds. Integrity is one of the habits. Doing the right thing even when no one is looking.

Sometimes we have to choose the right thing even when it would be easier in the moment not to. Holding onto the guilt of knowing what you’ve did, can eat you alive. Having a clear conscious and living in an honest way, that’s worth everything!

Tuesday’s Thoughts 5/28

I have an affirmation app on my phone. At 7am everyday, I get sent a series of affirmations that are all related. Today, this was what I received.

I’ve really lost focus of my morning yoga and even “eating right”. Though, I haven’t been stressing about it like I normally would. I’ve just accepted the number on the scale and beyond that, I’m happy.

That’s a healthy perspective 😊

Gone Too Soon

In honor of Memorial Day, I want to write about an old friend.

Fall of 1999, it was my sophomore year of college. It was move in day at the dorms. I drove myself up to school that year, early of course. Got myself situated and waited to see who would be living in my room and in my hall.

The rooms filled out, a couple familiar faces, but mostly new incoming freshman. My roommates and I immediately clicked with the girls just to the left of us and the boys across the hall to the right.

Very quickly we started spending our extra time together. Eating in the cafeteria, going to parties and watching Friends.

One of the boys was the life of the party. Byron, always with a big smile on his face. Ready to have fun with anyone and up for doing anything.

Over the next 3 years our friendships grew. We ended up living in different apartments, but always coming back to spend time together. Parties, concerts, festivals and summer trips to Canada.

At the very end of my senior year, Byron ended up moving into the house I lived in. The very first boy that I ever lived with. He used to cook for us, would engage in crazy girl talk and make us laugh all the time.

We all continued to stay in touch after I graduated. They all had 1 year left, I’d go and visit any chance I got. We celebrated everyone’s college graduation in one way or another and continued to go to summer concerts together for a year or two.

Then, our lives got in the way. The time without seeing each other went from weeks, to months to years. The communication slim. Seeing snapshots of life through Facebook.

Byron had gone into the service a few years after college. Something he’d always talked about, a dream come true for him. He served his time and then came back to his family.

Well, like it does for everyone, that time changed him. Though still sharing smiles on Facebook, my friend was troubled.

I remember my friend from college contacting me to let me know Byron was gone. I started crying immediately. My first friend that had died. It seemed so surreal.

A man that all the memories I have of are him making some goofy jokes, weird faces or even dressing like a girl for Halloween. The life of the party and the first boy I ever lived with, was holding on to something that was too much for him.

It’s memorial day today. A day to honor those who fought and lost their lives serving our country. Well, he may not have lost his life on the front line. He did fight for and serve our country. That dedication changed him so much, he ended up losing his life later.

With love and thanks, I hope there’s lots of laughter and beer pong where you are now!

You Control You

I have felt like this for a very long time. My husband and I have conversations about this regularly. When you’re focused on blaming something or someone for your problems, you’re missing out on what’s right in front of you.

You can’t control all the things happening around you. Often you don’t have any say to what people you care about do and hope that can affect you. All you can control is your reaction.

When you’re trying to fall asleep and have a million little thoughts flying through your head. Do you find yourself thinking of everything that could go wrong? Or all that has gone right?

Every morning after I open my eyes, I pull up the gratitude app. This app is everything for me. 1. It share a new quote every day. 2. Then I have a running gratitude journal. 3. This gets my day off on the right foot.

This was my quote this morning. Positivity is a choice. Happiness depends on the quality of your thoughts. Man, I do truly believe that.

Yesterday, I was freaking out a bit about how our dog is destroying part of our yard. Not sure what the best way to solve the problem was. My husband just said “we’ll figure it out.” A few minutes later a lady posted in our local Facebook group that she was getting rid of a bunch of landscaping pavers. Free, first come, first served. BINGO, I didn’t hesitate. Took 2 of my boys with me and grabbed a bunch of them.

Now, I’m not even sure that’ll solve the problem. I’m willing to try for free though, rather than spending $2 a stone at the store. Talking at my husband, jumping right up out of my comfy bed and being proactive made me happy. I barely though about it the rest of the day.

We get to choose to get up and do something or wallow in our own frustrations, disappointments or unhappiness. Why would you consistently choose the latter? You are in control of you. You control your thoughts, which I believe goes a long way to controlling your health.

The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts.

Happy Sunday!

Rest and Relaxation

I don’t know about you guys, but it seems like we ALWAYS have things that we have to do. It’s wonderful filling our lives with activities. Especially when most of them are to benefit raising well rounded children. However, sometimes you just need to rest.

Luckily, this weekend we get that. All 6 of our kids are here, which always makes me happy. Other than transporting them home on Sunday, we have nothing that we “have” to do.

We had homemade dinner last night. Took our time at the dinner table. Talking and enjoying each other’s company. The kids then all played outside. Then we watched a movie and had a couple drinks.

Today, we are still in bed and enjoying a cup of coffee while serving Netflix. My parents will be coming over later this afternoon to enjoy dinner with us. That is all that is on our schedule.

Tomorrow, I plan to be home all day. Maybe read a book, it’s been too long since I’ve read. I’ll probably make the kids happy with some pancakes and sausage for breakfast.

Then at last, we still have Monday. Yet another day to relax. It’ll be just our youngest here that day. It also looks like the only day where the weather may be OK to do something outside. We shall see where the day takes us.

I’m thankful that our schedules aligned in such a way that we’re able to enjoy this weekend in whatever way we choose. Relaxing and eating are our biggest priorities.

The next couple of weeks are packed with baseball games, dance recitals, birthday parties and other random events. This is the calm before the storm.

What are you doing this weekend? What does rising look like to you?

Five for Friday 5/24

I am really loving on some things this week, so I wanted to share them with you all.

1.) YouVersion it is an app.  “Experience the Bible Daily.” There are so many different features of the app that I am loving.  The one that I use most is the Bible Studies though.  I just got done with a 31 day study.  I was able to do this study with a group of friends and it was really cool.  Now, I moved onto one that is just 14 days long and I am doing it on my own.  There are many topics to choose from, different lengths and so on.  There is a verse of the day, beautiful images, just many different ways to experience the bible daily.

2.) Acorns a completely different kind of app.  This app will take your spare change from your bank account and invest it.  Makes it easy to save up some money.  I don’t know about all of you, but sometimes it is really hard to keep money actually in a savings account.

3.) My “dressy” clothes.  It has been nearly a year since I left my desk job.  While I am Shipt Shopping, I usually wear a t-shirt and leggings.  Well, I started subbing a few weeks ago and the skirts and pretty dresses have made their way into my rotation again!  Most of them are LulaRoe, which I LOVE and spent a good amount of money on.  Having good reason to wear them again, has been making me happy.

4.) The money that is in my bank account!!  If I have learned anything over the last few years, it is the law of attraction.  It is thinking about what you DO have and what you WANT to have.  Not concentrating on what you don’t.  Today was pay day and I am thankful for EVERY SINGLE penny that is in my bank account.  That will help me to pay for my cars, my mortgage, food for my kids and whatever else we need over these next two weeks.

5.) It is Memorial Day weekend.  Which here in the U.S. is a day where we remember and honor those who have died while serving our country. To a man that was very special to me in college and for years afterward.  Who served for years, but it wasn’t until afterward that he took his own life due to PTSD. I think of you often and I am thankful for you forever. To all of the Vets that lost their lives, I say “Thank you.”  Thank you for fighting so hard for our country so that I may enjoy a three day weekend with my family, thank you!

Substitute Teaching

I’ve taken on this wonderful new role in my life. That of the substitute teacher.

About 9 years ago now I had started the process. Then things got rocky with my ex and it was put on the back burner. Never really to be thought about again until a month or so ago.

At my a PTA meeting back in April a couple of my friends were talking about it. How they’re doing it, loving it, but mostly how much the district needed some good substitutes.

I talked to my husband about it that day and went forward with the process. I stayed right on top of all the paperwork, trainings and so on. From start to finish, it took me about 14 days to get on the platform.

Two weeks ago I grabbed my first assignment. Afternoon half day I’m second grade. It was wonderful and has only got better from there. Today I’m working a full day. Morning in Kindergarten and afternoon in 3rd grade.

This morning will be the first class I’ve taught in twice. I saw the kids from that class yesterday afternoon and told them, they were so excited ❤

The best part?? So far, I’ve only taken assignments at the Elementary school that my youngest 2 children attend. I get to see them in the halls, at lunch and recess. More importantly though, I still get to take them to school and pick them up. It truly is the best of both worlds.

Progress

When something unexpected comes out of nowhere and you don’t FREAK OUT… that’s progress!

I don’t do well with change. Specifically if that change deals directly with my time, my money or my children.

It’s OK to not like it when things change. Necessary though to think, is there anything that I can do? Is this within my control? When the answer is No, the best thing to do is breathe and tell yourself “it’ll be OK”.

4AM

I woke up at 4 and had trouble falling back asleep. This isn’t typical for me, so I’m not to worried about it.

The 6 hours I did sleep were solid and I feel rested. While awake, I thought about how lucky I am. All the wonderful things I did this week. Food I enjoyed, laughter I heard, thank yous and I love yous I received.

I used to think of all I had to do. Bills that needed to be paid, words left unsaid and situations that could go wrong. Now, when I’m free to think, I rattle off all that I’m grateful for instead.

I can’t be exactly sure all that this week holds. James has 2 baseball games scheduled. I’m scheduled to substitue 2 full days Tuesday and Wednesday. Kids have a half day of school Friday. All the big kids will be here this weekend and it’s Memorial day.

I hope you all have a wonderful week. Make the best of every day!

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